Firstly, Lepine was an exceptional case, not evidence of a trend, or a culture of misogyny. Almost all the women who have been murdered by men in this country fall into two groups; anonymous women from the bottom rungs (prostitutes, runaways, etc.), and women in obviously dysfunctional relationships with the killer. What Lepine did is as foreign to Canadian society as the guy who went on a rampage in an Ottawa bus garage. I don't see annual candlelight vigils for transit employees who live in fear.
Secondly, it should be obvious that accusing all males of perpetrating violence against women does not save any lives. Women need to look at their role in the relationships they willingly enter into, and what can be done to defuse conflict before their male partner (or ex-partner) snaps and destroys everything he loves, including his own children and himself. So what if the man is to blame; the woman can win the argument and still lose her life. Tougher laws won't deter someone who commits murder, then kills himself. Maybe the only real solution is to prevent future lady-killers from falling into such a deep pit that the only solution they see is to kill themselves and everyone on the other side of the broken relationship. It has frightening parallels with eliminating suicide bombers.
Thirdly, I am leaving the killers of prostitutes, female drug addicts and runaways out of this discussion. My involvement with an inner-city soup kitchen leads me to believe that a similar percentage of males living on the mean streets get killed as do females. I do not know the reasons why, but I suspect it is partly because they are easy targets for psychos who release incredible self-hatred through murder. The sex of the victim is an issue in individual cases, but this is not a general men versus women conflict.
My final comment is this, what Marc Lepine really pointed out was the need to improve the mental health of some men in Canadian society. If Canadian women want to save some of their own lives, they might want to put some effort in this direction.
I'm with you all down the line. I particularly like your second point about unstable men who come into conflict with the legal system over a domestic dispute. The current system seems to be designed to maximize the alienation and despair of men who are already not tracking properly. There seems to be a vindictive and punitive attitude towards _all_ men which only serves to increase paranoia and desperation. For the majority of men this treatment by the legal system is (merely) insulting and degrading. For that small group of potentially dangerous men, the current legal system increases the likelihood that they will realize that potential.
